Confined by the Rules of Writing

Does anyone ever feel confined by these ‘Rules of Writing’?

If you’re like me your constantly looking up writing tips and tricks; I always look at Pinterest. There are some fantastic pins there. I like to pin stuff like ‘words to use instead of says’, and ‘show don’t tell examples’.

There are so many rules that I’ve read…it’s kind of intimidating isn’t it?

Don’t do X, Y, and Z.

I’ve learned to take these rules with a grain of salt.

I hate character sheets- I never fill one out completely because some of the things I just don’t find important for certain types of stories. But I truly believe knowing your character is important.

You may not need to know some tiny, little detail about their past that doesn’t really have any importance to the story like their favorite toy as a child. For my husband’s story…it has no bearing.

But what IS important is how your character would react in a situation. You may WANT them to do something but staying true to their personality they might not do that.

For example, my husbands book is about some witches. His main character encounters three real witches and these ladies are pretty evil, out for themselves. My husband had included in his introduction the leader of these three witches explaining witch ‘rules’. I think he wanted to give some more insights to the story.

But they wouldn’t do this.

They don’t care about him. Their only goal right here is to use him to get what they want.

This was important to me because the leader giving him some knowledge was completely out of character. The only way she would tell him anything was if it benefited her. And it doesn’t. I completely removed this part and it worked.

There are some rules you can’t really break, like the rules of 3rd person or 1st person. But there are some rules that might not be set in stone.

If you want to do something that’s a little unorthodox and just doesn’t fit with the rules; find people that like to read and ask them their opinion!

Ask, ‘How would you feel if you were reading a book and it did this?’ or write up the scene in your head and have them read it. ‘Does this work?’

Write what you need to write. That’s the most important thing.

 

Stigma About Debt

Let’s face it- there’s a huge stigma regarding debt. People are looked down on for having any type of debt. People will just say ‘Don’t spend more than you make. If you don’t have it in your bank account don’t use a credit card.’

But debt is more about using a credit card to buy frivolous things.

Debt includes student loan debt, dental debt, car payments etc.

I have mounds of student loan debt and while I have a decent paying job now it doesn’t make it any easier to pay off considering my monthly payment are pretty close to $1,000 a month. And we’re taking minimum payments here.

Dental debt- it’s a real thing. Between my husband and I, we’ve got like $4,000 in dental loan debt. How you might ask?

Being young and getting taken advantage of at a dentists office. We were outrageously charged for cavity filings, wisdom teeth removal and a root canal (which I’m still convinced they did the wrong tooth).

These are all things out of my control but I’m still looked down on because I have them.

Well, let’s stop looking down on people for this kind of thing and be a little more understanding.

Now, I’ve looked up hundreds of tips on best ways to pay off debt and mostly they are all the same and a lot of them are just silly but I’m going to share some tips that really stuck with me.

  1. Multiple debt forms: how to pay them off.

Now if you’re like me you probably we’re trying to put larger than minimum payments on all your debts. Don’t! This is a mistake.

For example, I’ve got three (not including my student loans). Two dental loans and a credit card. Now putting three larger than minimum payments on these and in a few months it feels like they haven’t moved at all.

New plan: Putting close to minimum payments on two and putting giant payments on one. Doing this I can get one dental loan paid off in a month and a half, then stop having that interest and can put that payment towards my other two. By my calculations instead of taking two years to pay off my debt I can pay it off in less than six months, and save myself a ton on interest.

2. If you’re one of those people whose tempted to use your card when you have it: LOCK IT UP AND THROW AWAY THE KEY.

Okay, not literally. You don’t want to cancel your credit card because that’ll hurt your credit more. But put it in a lock box where you won’t use it at all. You don’t need to put anymore on it, especially if you’re dying to pay it off.

3. Don’t put so much money on your cards that you end up being so broke before your next paycheck that you are forced to use your cards.

This is counter-productive and why a lot of people create budgets. Which I know we all hate but if you’re in debt, you need it.

There are a ton more tips out there but these are the ones that really stuck with me, and if someone can stick to them you could be debt free in just a few months.

If you are in debt, don’t wait thinking that eventually you will deal with that problem because it will only make your debt grow larger and larger. Get mad at it, and get determined to stop giving all your money to these loan companies.

Instead imagine yourself having extra money to go on a nice vacation and not having to worry about bills.

Good luck to everyone that has debt, and if you don’t I am so proud and happy for you. Keep it that way. 🙂

 

Healthy Relationships

Okay, so I may be a Newlywed and all that but I’ve been with my husband for years and there are some things that I think are important for keeping the relationship healthy.

1. Get your Significant Other little ‘gifts’ now and then.

These don’t have to be anything elaborate or anything like that. I’m talking little things that they just love. My husband will occasionally see things like my favorite candy bar and surprise me with one. I’ll bring him home something small like a cute little Batman trinket that costs $2. It makes us both feel loved and doesn’t take much effort.

2. Thank your S.O. for the things they do around the house.

GASP! I know what you’re thinking: why would I thank them for doing things they should be doing?

The answer is simple, everyone likes to be appreciated. I constantly thank my husband for making me dinner, doing dishes, and pretty much anything around the house and when I do I can tell he feels appreciated. And he does it right back.

Now I’m not saying that you have to thank them every time they do a simple task but I guarantee that the more you thank them the more likely they are to continue to do it.

Try it out. I’m serious.

3. Do things you don’t like doing that they do.

This one seems pretty simple, right?

Now I’m not really into certain things that my husband is, like Dr. Who or anime (like Death Note). But every once in a blue moon I’ll watch something with him and he gets so excited it’s adorable.

And you just might enjoy doing it because your S.O. is having such a good time.

 

Those are just a couple of tips that I think will keep your relationship healthy. Try them out and let me know how they work.