Confined by the Rules of Writing

Does anyone ever feel confined by these ‘Rules of Writing’?

If you’re like me your constantly looking up writing tips and tricks; I always look at Pinterest. There are some fantastic pins there. I like to pin stuff like ‘words to use instead of says’, and ‘show don’t tell examples’.

There are so many rules that I’ve read…it’s kind of intimidating isn’t it?

Don’t do X, Y, and Z.

I’ve learned to take these rules with a grain of salt.

I hate character sheets- I never fill one out completely because some of the things I just don’t find important for certain types of stories. But I truly believe knowing your character is important.

You may not need to know some tiny, little detail about their past that doesn’t really have any importance to the story like their favorite toy as a child. For my husband’s story…it has no bearing.

But what IS important is how your character would react in a situation. You may WANT them to do something but staying true to their personality they might not do that.

For example, my husbands book is about some witches. His main character encounters three real witches and these ladies are pretty evil, out for themselves. My husband had included in his introduction the leader of these three witches explaining witch ‘rules’. I think he wanted to give some more insights to the story.

But they wouldn’t do this.

They don’t care about him. Their only goal right here is to use him to get what they want.

This was important to me because the leader giving him some knowledge was completely out of character. The only way she would tell him anything was if it benefited her. And it doesn’t. I completely removed this part and it worked.

There are some rules you can’t really break, like the rules of 3rd person or 1st person. But there are some rules that might not be set in stone.

If you want to do something that’s a little unorthodox and just doesn’t fit with the rules; find people that like to read and ask them their opinion!

Ask, ‘How would you feel if you were reading a book and it did this?’ or write up the scene in your head and have them read it. ‘Does this work?’

Write what you need to write. That’s the most important thing.


Guilty Pleasure TV

I may be super lame but I love the show Z Nation. A lot of people can’t stand it because it does some ridiculous stuff but I find it hilarious.

Sure, the zombie baby in the beginning was a little weird but it didn’t bother me at all. I love that they are not afraid to do silly things. And I have to admit I’m emotionally invested in the main characters.

Addison Carver- she’s the reason that I fell in love with the name Addy. Plus, she’s beautiful and in the show a complete bad ass. I love her red hair. I’ve always been a huge fan of red hair, and tried to get red in my hair forever but sadly red hair and me just aren’t meant to be.

Plus, her bat is way cooler than Lucille from The Walking Dead, right?


My husband’s favorite character is Murphy; probably because he loves a ‘bad’ guy and sometimes Murphy is. Plus he’s the potential savior of the human race and he has really cool abilities.


I’m secretly crushing on 10k. In the first couple seasons they have him looking a little crazy but he’s got a heart of gold (except when it comes to Murphy), and in Season 4 he’s looking pretty delicious.

Plus, he’s a wicked shot and comes up with such fun ways to mercy the puppies and kittens.


Plus, did I mention that the show has puppies and kitties? Oh, not dogs and cats really but this is what they call the zombies. Cracks me up every time.

I’m so excited that the show has been renewed for a fifth season because they killed me with the ending of season 4.

If you like zombie shows, and can handle a little cheesy now-and-then check out Z Nation. It’s a Sy Fy show and wonderful.

What are you’re favorite zombie shows?


What I’m Playing

I’m a huge video game nerd- which is a bonus for my husband because he’s even a bigger video game nerd.

It’s bad, I mean at our wedding his father toasted that we were soul mates and he couldn’t believe that in our living room we have two tv’s side by side with two Xbox One’s. The thing is…it’s true!

We probably wouldn’t have two if they made more games that were split screen…but it is nice to have our own screens and be able to go off and do things on our own as well. Heck, sometimes he will play one game with his friends while I play a totally different one.

Right now I’m into three games:

  1. Sims4catsanddogs

I’ve always been a Sims person, I don’t even know why. Some people find it pointless but I find it entertaining for different lengths of time. I get really into it for awhile, then I fall out for awhile and then I’m back again.

I got Cats & Dogs & City Living 50% off during the Holiday season (otherwise I probably wouldn’t have gotten them) and I’m enjoying having a Sim with pets, and her own Vet’s office. It’s kind of fun treating the pets. Usually I spend so much time making an obnoxiously big family that’s nearly impossible to take care of (and end up cheating for $$) but I’m playing it for real this time. No cheats!

2. state of decay

I know this one’s a little older (it came out in 2013) but we just got it because it was on sale for $7.50 and I’m a big fan of Zombie RPG type games.

I don’t know why I just adore Zombie games, and I love all the different kinds of things you can do. You’ve got to build up your home base to keep zombies out, build outposts to keep away zombie hordes. You have to find and help survivors and people from your group and convince people to join you.

Not to mention you’ve got to search from things, and there’s different kinds of zombies and infestations you have to clear/kill.

If you like zombie games, this is one for you. Plus, the second one is coming out this year and I’m fan-girling over here about it.

3. paladins

This is an Xbox game still in Beta version- they are constantly updating it, adding new heroes, new maps and game functions.

You can play in groups with your friend and go head-to-head with other teams. You have four other teammates (a total of 5 on a team) and you have tons of characters to choose from. The classes are healer, damage dealer, flank, and front liner. Your team set up can set you up for a win or loss.

I usually end up being the healer mainly because I’m the one whose super aware of where all my teammates are on the map. I’m much better at it then trying to deal extra damage or flank around. I’m not stealthy at all.

What kind of games are you into? Let me know what you’re playing!

You Want To Write?

I really can’t help it: I love writing prompts.

They really just get my imagination going and I have all these crazy ideas and want to write them down.

On Tuesday’s I always post one and encourage people to give them ago and leave a link to them in the comment section. It’s a lot of fun, and crazy to see how many different little stories can come of the same prompt.

So, get your fingers ready and start typing.

1.8 prompt

Oh, this one can go so many ways.

Get to writing and remember to comment your links so other’s can see what you’ve come up with.

Don’t be shy! And see you soon


Stigma About Debt

Let’s face it- there’s a huge stigma regarding debt. People are looked down on for having any type of debt. People will just say ‘Don’t spend more than you make. If you don’t have it in your bank account don’t use a credit card.’

But debt is more about using a credit card to buy frivolous things.

Debt includes student loan debt, dental debt, car payments etc.

I have mounds of student loan debt and while I have a decent paying job now it doesn’t make it any easier to pay off considering my monthly payment are pretty close to $1,000 a month. And we’re taking minimum payments here.

Dental debt- it’s a real thing. Between my husband and I, we’ve got like $4,000 in dental loan debt. How you might ask?

Being young and getting taken advantage of at a dentists office. We were outrageously charged for cavity filings, wisdom teeth removal and a root canal (which I’m still convinced they did the wrong tooth).

These are all things out of my control but I’m still looked down on because I have them.

Well, let’s stop looking down on people for this kind of thing and be a little more understanding.

Now, I’ve looked up hundreds of tips on best ways to pay off debt and mostly they are all the same and a lot of them are just silly but I’m going to share some tips that really stuck with me.

  1. Multiple debt forms: how to pay them off.

Now if you’re like me you probably we’re trying to put larger than minimum payments on all your debts. Don’t! This is a mistake.

For example, I’ve got three (not including my student loans). Two dental loans and a credit card. Now putting three larger than minimum payments on these and in a few months it feels like they haven’t moved at all.

New plan: Putting close to minimum payments on two and putting giant payments on one. Doing this I can get one dental loan paid off in a month and a half, then stop having that interest and can put that payment towards my other two. By my calculations instead of taking two years to pay off my debt I can pay it off in less than six months, and save myself a ton on interest.

2. If you’re one of those people whose tempted to use your card when you have it: LOCK IT UP AND THROW AWAY THE KEY.

Okay, not literally. You don’t want to cancel your credit card because that’ll hurt your credit more. But put it in a lock box where you won’t use it at all. You don’t need to put anymore on it, especially if you’re dying to pay it off.

3. Don’t put so much money on your cards that you end up being so broke before your next paycheck that you are forced to use your cards.

This is counter-productive and why a lot of people create budgets. Which I know we all hate but if you’re in debt, you need it.

There are a ton more tips out there but these are the ones that really stuck with me, and if someone can stick to them you could be debt free in just a few months.

If you are in debt, don’t wait thinking that eventually you will deal with that problem because it will only make your debt grow larger and larger. Get mad at it, and get determined to stop giving all your money to these loan companies.

Instead imagine yourself having extra money to go on a nice vacation and not having to worry about bills.

Good luck to everyone that has debt, and if you don’t I am so proud and happy for you. Keep it that way. 🙂